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3 Steps to Aligning with Your
Authenticity
1. The Alignment Inventory
Ask yourself:
• Where in my life do I feel ease, flow, confidence?
(That’s likely where you’re in alignment.)
• Where do I feel tension, resentment, or confusion?
(That’s where you’re likely out of alignment.)
Use this as a diagnostic. Look at relationships, habits,
decisions — and notice where old beliefs might be
running the show.
2. Revisit Your Values
Values are the compass you use to make decisions —
they guide how you want to live and lead.
Some people say values never change. I believe they can
shift in priority over time.
Try this prompt:
“I feel most alive and fulfilled when I am __________,
__________, and __________.”
Then ask:
Are your choices and commitments aligned with those
values?
If not, what belief is blocking that alignment?
3. Use The Think–Feel–Do Model
This framework helps people identify where they’re stuck
and how to shift it.
Here’s how to use it:
Step 1: Choose a problem or challenge you are facing,
or a behavior pattern you want to change.
Step 2: Make three columns labeled: THINK | FEEL | DO
Step 3: Reflect, without judgment:
What am I thinking about this situation? Write down all
the thoughts going through your head.
Next, when you reflect on this challenge, how do you
feel? What feelings come up?
Finally under Do: what actions have you done, or not
done, to resolve this? What are you avoiding?
Then dig deeper:
• Is that thought really true?
• What belief is underneath it?
• If you can anchor a feeling or emotion to this challenge,
explore, where did that feeling come from? When do
you first remember feeling that feeling?
• Who gave me that belief?
• Do I choose to keep it?
The Think - Feel - Do model is a tool to create greater
overall awareness so that you can identify if your
thoughts, behaviors and actions are in alignment with
your authentic identity that you desire to continue
stepping into, or, are they out of alignment?
This model helps you spot the belief behind the behavior
and that’s where change becomes possible.
When you shift the belief, you shift how you feel.
When you shift how you feel, you change what you do.
And when you change what you do — your results follow.
Your Next Move (or: Where do we Go from Here)
Uncertainty isn’t going anywhere.
But the choice to live in alignment with what is true for
you, is always available to you.
In a world that pulls you from yourself, your authenticity
can become your antidote.
Choose clarity by challenging the beliefs that no longer
fit. Choose freedom by living from your truth, not the
story you were handed.
Because the more you trust your inner truth, the less
you need permission from anyone else.
And that’s the most radical antidote of all.
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Amber Swenor is a transformational
leadership coach, speaker, front person
of her band Morningstar and author of
Unleashed: A Been-There Rocked-That
Guide to Radical Authenticity in Life and
Business. She helps leaders and teams align their
beliefs, actions and identity to create success from the
inside out. Her signature Think–Feel–Do model supports
individuals in identifying the root of misalignment and
making empowered shifts that lead to lasting change.
Through keynotes, retreats and coaching, Amber guides
people to live and lead authentically, especially through
uncertain times.