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Transformation
Isn’t Polished - It’s
Personal
ransformation sounds so… aspirational,
so shiny, curated, and positive. In my
experience, it’s far more tender than that.
It’s messy, honest, often uncomfortable,
and yet, wildly beautiful.
Real transformation isn’t about fixing what’s broken;
it’s about remembering what’s already true beneath
the layers of fear, perfectionism, shame, or survival
strategies. It’s not about becoming someone new -
it’s about uncovering the masterpiece you already
are.
The Art of Uncovering
There’s a quote attributed to Michelangelo about
carving the statue of David. When asked how he
created such a masterpiece, he said he didn’t
create David, he simply removed everything that
wasn’t him.
That’s how transformation has come to feel in my
life: not constructing something new, but peeling
away what never really belonged.
For years, I believed I had to earn love. I wore masks
- versions of myself designed to keep people happy,
impressed, or close. But the more I performed, the
more invisible I became to myself.
I once had a vision: I was standing barefoot in front
of a mirror, wrapped in a luminous evening gown. I
was glowing; radiant in a way that didn’t feel earned,
just true. Around me lay scarves, hats, heavy coats
- layer upon layer I had once worn to be liked, to
belong, to feel safe.
And in that quiet moment, I realized that the truest
version of me had never been missing. She had
simply been buried beneath everything I thought
I had to be.